Pursuing Life (Languages)

The very first time that I heard about the Life Languages(tm), I felt like I had found my new career. I was working at WVCC and Kenny brought in Carolyn Weis to give us our profiles and teach us about the 7 languages. After she was all done, I went up to her and said, "I want your job." That made her think that I was really a high mover. Although I'm not really a mover, I was moved. I love the uniqueness that God gives each of us and, yet, He gives us a way to identify and communicate with one another.

For those who don't know what the Life Languages(tm) are, they are the communication styles that each of us speak. There are 7 languages: Responder and Influencer (the emotive languages), Mover and Doer (the kinetic languages), and Shaper, Producer, and Contemplator (the cognitive languages). After taking the profile test, you receive a score for each language. The higher the score, the more fluent you are in that language (i.e., the more you think, act, work, etc. in that language). For example, if you are a high Doer, you will like to make "ToDo" lists and check things off that list. You will be very organized, efficient, and dedicated. You will have an eye for details. And you will be very task-oriented. You will not be able to rest until you have finished everything on your list.

Each of the languages has it's own set of characteristics. And ALL of the languages are good. In fact, the languages corresponde with the motivational gifts in Romans 12:3-8 Responder - Compassion, Influencer - Encouragement, Mover - Prophecy, Doer - Serving, Shaper - Leadership, Producer - Giving, Contemplator - Teaching. No language is better than any other. Each language has lots of strengths, as well as potential weaknesses.

Anyway, if anyone is interested in learning more, please contact me. The cost of the test is $45.

Also, I am putting together a proposal for taking the languages into the schools. There is a direct correlation between the language(s) that you speak and the profession(s) that you would excel at. I wish that someone would have given me my profile when I was in high school or college. Then I would have known that, being a low Doer, I wouldn't be very happy being an accountant (my degree). I pursued the degree for all the wrong reasons, but I had no idea how unhappy I would be trying to do something that doesn't fit my profile at all!!!!

For my proposal, I am looking for testimonies of anyone who has taken the profile test. Please just give me a sentence or two about any changes it made in your life, insights you gained about yourself (or others), etc.

You can post comments and/or questions on this site or email me at kszilagyi@hotmail.com.

THANKS!!!

The Twilight Zone

It wasn't even a full moon...

Today, we had no patients for Dr. Hagen to see, I got to work late, one of our assisstants (who already gave notice) walked out before the day even began (she was mad that we hadn't called her to let her know that she could've slept in since we didn't have anyone in the schedule), one of our assistants was home with her sick kids (who turned out to be fine), our camera wouldn't work (for the one patient we needed to take shade pictures on), one of our patients burst into tears and then hung up on me, an old patient walked into the office requesting his son's dental records for the orthodontist (when we talked to the orthodontist, he said that he never asked for any records), and through it all the boss kept a positive outlook (hard to do when your staff is not there and you aren't making any money).

I don't know what is going to happen tomorrow, but it can't possibly get any weirder...

Strategic Repositioning

I told Christopher that I was going on a women's retreat this weekend. He asked me where the retreat was. I said, "Independence." He said that is more of a strategic withdrawal than a full retreat. That made me laugh. In fact I kept thinking about it all evening. Except that I had changed the word withdrawal to repositioning in my mind. And it was the exact pefect definition of what I did this weekend. I strategically repositioned myself to hear from God :)

The speaker's name is Kathie Walters and she regualarly walks in the supernatural. She said that we will receive what we believe. We do not have to "qualify" to receive visions or angelic visitations or miracles. We just have to believe that everything that is in the Scriptures is for us. The Word says that if we believe, WHEN WE PRAY, then we will receive -- we don't receive and then believe. She also told us to STOP PRAYING for things that God has already promised you (in Scripture) or said yes to. When you keep praying for it, you are starting over at square one and you have lost your answer. For example, the Scripture says that if we humble ourselves and pray and turn from our wicked ways, He will hear from Heaven and forgive our sins and heal our land. So, once we have done our part, our "prayer" should be something like: "OK, Lord, You said that You would heal our land. It needs healing, so we are expecting You to move. In fact, Your honor is at stake here because You promised." Then stop praying. Quit asking for things He's already given you. Start acting like they are already yours (because they are) even if you haven't seen the manifestation, yet.

So, I have several things that I am not going to pray for any more because God has already said "yes." I just need to start acting on the yes. He has told me that I can be a marriage counselor and a public speaker for Life Languages. I don't have to keep asking Him if/when I can do that!!! What a relief! I "danced through changed"* at the retreat and I am truly going to change my approach to what I am supposed to be doing with my life. I know I don't belong in dentristry (although I am so grateful for my job). I'm going to be pursuing the true call of God on my life (no accounting and no dentistry!!!).

The doubt has been lifted off my faith!!!

*At the retreat, Kathie had all of us empty our change on the floor at the front of the room. Then we started a dance line and "danced through change" as a outward sign of our new mindsets. It was so much fun! We danced and laughed for an hour :)

The best days include friends!

I went to coffee and the mall today with my good friend, Jenn. She is one of those people that make you want to believe the best in everyone. I never pass up an opportunity to spend time with her. She has such a big heart and a great smile that lights up her face.

We talked (and laughed) about everyday life and, yet, we shared something much more important. It is amazing how much perspective you can gain just by listening to what is going on in your friends' lives. Yeah, my car broke down 3 times last week. And yes, my job is quite stressful. No, my house hasn't sold, yet. And lots of other things could be going better. But then there is laughter. And life is good.

Thank you, God, for my friend.

The best friend I mentioned!

Me & Christopher

I've thought about this for a while...

I have been considering starting my own blog for a while. Then my sister, Kimber, started hers and I figured it was time to just do it.

Now... what to say???!!!

I guess I just wanted an outlet for my thoughts on life, love, and the pursuit of happiness. I have a great life -- doesn't always feel that way, but it's true. My family is always there for me. I am gainfully employed. I have great friends, including my very best friend and love of my life, Christopher. I have never truly been happier. And the pursuit has only just begun.

I am almost 35 and I can't say that I imagined life to turn out the way that it has (so far). But God does work all things for our good. If I had followed a different path or made any of a million other choices, I wouldn't be on the verge of the greatest time of my life. Of course, every moment should be looked at as an adventure -- something I'm not always good at. I guess I'm just starting to "get it." There is so much peace in knowing that you are doing what you are supposed to be doing -- saying "yes" to the right things (and learning the magic of "no").

I think it is hard for people to say no -- harder than we even think. I changed my major in college because I wanted to please the people that I knew at the time. I have served on countless teams and committees that I didn't have the time for (or the grace). But, I didn't know how to say "no." None of the things that I was doing were bad, just not all right for me at the time.

Anyway, today I am full of hope. joy. peace. EXCITEMENT. I am secure in knowing that I will get to where I am supposed to be going because I am not alone in the journey. Thank You, God, for being with me and giving me the best travel companions :)