picking a wedding date

For a calendar-minded girl marrying a calendar-challenged guy, this is the hardest decision to make!!!

I keep thinking that we need to pick a date -- and settle on it -- for the following reasons:
1. we need to ask our pastor to set aside the date (and he's the busiest person I know)
2. my out-of-town friends and family need to make travel arrangements
3. my boss needs to know when to start looking for my replacement
4. I have to sell my house and get ready for the move to Florida
5. I NEED TO START PLANNING!!!!!!!!

He just wants us to move to Florida as soon as possible. He also would like the whole thing to just 'happen' without muss or fuss. And he has other things on his mind right now that he feels he needs to work out first (like the move to Florida, where we're going to live, where he's going to work -- all good things, true). But, I feel that we could be further along in our Florida planning, if we knew when we were going to get married. He says Florida first, wedding date to follow. It makes more sense to me the other way around. Aren't we quite a pair?!